Behind the scenes: This life we LIVE

“Then, she began to breathe, and live, and every moment took here to place where goodbyes were hard to come by. She was in love, but not in love with someone or something, she was in love with her life. And for the first time, in a long time, everything was inspiring.”  R.M Drake 

I often get questions or raised eyebrows, when people find out what I “do”, or they learn the details regarding my “lifestyle”.  I often get disregarded as “lost” and living out my dreams is commonly mistaken for “Indefinitely searching for something” when in truth, for the first time in my life, the rat race to find happiness ended when I maneuvered my way throw the crowd, and opted for the less traveled side road.

In this process, I’ve allowed my mind to be malleable, while maintaining my core principals and beliefs.  I’ve allowed this life to happen to me, welcoming both the good times and the hardships.  What this journey has taught me, I deemed valuable enough to share with you, in hopes that you may find some inspiration and joy.

Comparison IS the thief of JOY – quite possibly one of the best quotes spoken by a former US president.   Let me dive headfirst into this thought… so often we find ourselves riddled with envy when we look at others, and with everyones best attributes being flaunted on social media, we’ve made it an easy trap to fall victim to.  We want that mans job, that woman’s hair, that couples house, that winning lottery ticket, that kids athletic ability.  What this does, is rob us from the blessings in our own lives.  Each and every one of us has something in life to be eternally grateful for, why is it that we tend to focus more on what we don’t have?  You know that saying, “the grass is greener where you water it”?  Focus on whats right in your life, and use that mentality and positivity to fix what’s wrong in your life.

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with – Choose wisely.  The world is full of people who will lift you up, and people who will suck your soul DRY. You want to take the steps to become more successful?  Look at the people you keep in your life.   What is their message? How do they interact with you? What are their goals?  How are they contributing to your life?  I truly believe that human beings can be one of the best resources on this planet, if we choose to invest wisely in the right ones.

It’s not all kittens and rainbows –  We are very, very skilled when it comes putting our best face on for the public.  People see my pictures, my travels, the many adventures and the big smile peeking out from under a tattered ball cap.  What I am trying to work on this year, is being more transparent.  This is a humbling, vital tool that is necessary when we want to convey our message and be taken seriously.  I have never been the type to spew emotional details about my struggles to even my close friends and family, let alone lay them out on the internet.   However, I don’t want to deceive my audience that my life is the definition of perfection.   It is perfectly imperfect, for me.   I don’t post the pictures of the flat tire in the middle of Albertas wilderness, I post the picture of the sunrise the next day.  I don’t post about the lonely treks across the country where my mind tends to wander to thoughts of friends and family.  I post about what I learned on the journey.  I tend to leave out the details that make my trips less desirable, but I plan on changing that because each and every bump in the road has allowed me to stay grounded and provided an immeasurable opportunity to grow.

Don’t follow the path others think you should be on, follow your own –  This, I see all to often.  The status quo.  The American dream.  That’s all great, but it simply isn’t for everyone.  I cannot begin to tell you the amount of people who called me crazy for quitting my steady job, to pursue a dream.  In doing so, I experienced more uncertainty and took on more risks that I care to admit, but it has ultimately brought me more peace of mind than I could have ever possibly hoped for.   People I encounter tend to comment on how positive I am.  I have received three unanimous post cards this past year at my studio from strangers I’ve met on my travels, saying my attitude on life was infectious, refreshing, and inspiring. This alone has reaffirmed that I made the right choice.  (lets focus on the good message here, not how these strangers took the time to research my pilates studio and write me… #theyallseemedharmless 😉 )

I wanted to keep this post brief, I’ll dive in to a few of these bullet points in later posts I’m sure.  The goal here is to encourage you to whole heartedly follow the path that brings YOU joy.  I’d be lying if I told you that the road I’m on has been level, paved and is lined with rest stops that serve cold beer.  But I’d also be lying if I told you I regret taking it.  There are cold nights away from home when my curious mind starts to dance around thoughts of all the security I previously had, but they are quickly replaced with a smile when I realize that I can say that I do not fear the future, I am at peace with the unknown, and I have relentlessly followed my dreams with no regrets, consequently filling me with a joy that continues to ignite my soul with a fire that no one or nothing can ever put out.   Thank you for reading.

“I have been finding treasures in places I did not want to search. I have been hearing wisdom from tongues I did not want to listen. I have been finding beauty where I did not want to look. And I have learned so much from journeys I did not want to take. Forgive me, O Gracious One; for I have been closing my ears and eyes for too long. I have learned that miracles are only called miracles because they are often witnessed by only those who can can see through all of life’s illusions. I am ready to see what really exists on other side, what exists behind the blinds, and taste all the ugly fruit instead of all that looks right, plump and ripe.”